Happiness = Reality – Expectations
High expectations are a major key to where unhappiness begins According to the formula (Happiness = Reality – Expectations), The safe way for maintaining high happiness levels is to maintain low expectations. This formula suggests that one’s happiness levels are inversely proportional to one’s expectations. So if you have low expectations you may get things less but surely be happy for a longer time.
The Law of Expectations says that whatever you expect with confidence, positive or negative, becomes your reality. If you confidently expect to succeed, to learn something from every experience, expect to become wealthy as a result of applying your talents and abilities to your opportunities and you maintain that attitude of confident expectations long enough, it will become your reality. It has been suggested through research that a positive, optimistic, cheerful attitude is attractive and will result in things happening the way you want them to happen.
Since the only thing in life you can control is the way you think, you always act in a manner consistent with your beliefs, especially your beliefs about yourself. These beliefs can act as a set of filters. You tend to see what you already believe and therefore don’t allow yourself the opportunity for something different to happen. The worst beliefs and, sadly, the most powerful are our “Self-limiting beliefs”. These beliefs often put the brakes on your potential development. They can hold you back and most often create doubt and fear. This can lead to hesitation in you fulfilling your dreams. So, challenging these beliefs will be critical to changing expectations.
So the best thing you can do is expect less and face reality. Today facing reality may be difficult but it is a hundred percent better than living in the world of fake promises which leads to fake expectations and unhappiness.